Zach F;278175 wrote:You probably rubbed them up the wrong way with your tinfoil hat. Getting people to like you is key when they are working on your gaff. Sounds like you are at war with your builders and that never ends well as I’m sure you now realise.
A bunch of assumptions. I don’t ‘wear my tinfoil hat’ with the builders because I don’t discuss or push anything to do with covid, lockdowns, mRNA vaccines, climate change or anything else controversial. There is a difference between posting on a forum people can choose to read or not and trying to convert everyone you meet to your own point of view like a religious zealot.
We have done all the stuff to try to establish human working relationships I’m afraid. Copious coffees, teas, biscuits, donuts etc. I bought an 18 year old lad fresh out of bricklaying school that they sent to site some bottled beer to celebrate laying his first professional block. Congratulated people on their weddings, offered sympathy for family funerals, and engaged in bits of friendly smalltalk, thanked them for their work. We have parked our car elsewhere and put cones out so they can park freely, bought tarps and plastic sheets, loaned use of a tool when they have been caught short, cleaned up the site numerous times, I have lifted carpets, and floorboards, moved furniture, kitchen appliances so they can work more easily. I have paid them promptly and not withheld payment when they bill 100% of elements only 80% complete.
In return they have lied to me many times, essentially abandoned site for 2 months (whilst always promising to come ‘next week’), treated the site like a rubbish tip, thrown cans of red bull and vapes into the works, shown zero regard whilst we went all through winter with no central heating, washing machine, or sink and my spouse went down with pneumonia.
Now I am paying high rates for some professional help and the pro tells me you have to be very very firm with them. Of course individuals vary and a couple have been helpful and are equally frustrated with the builder.
You can’t charm a builder into doing an excellent job for you.