Joined: 03/03/2017(UTC) Posts: 2,029
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jeffian;330756 wrote:I was in this position with my own mother, over whose affairs I had power of attorney. My bro-in-law made a strong pitch for a distribution to the grandchildren. The difficult bit is trying to foresee the future. Yes, it all seems fine when they're healthy and fit but who knows whether that will last up til death, what problems might arise and how long they might live. In my mother's case, she was fine up until 88, got a bit dotty from then on and developed full-blown dementia before dying at 92. We were able to keep her in her own home with live-in care, and she had the resources to cover that, but had she developed health conditions which required moving her to a residential/medical facility, it could have been a different story. A step-aunt left extremely well-provided for by her husband lived to over 100, bedridden and blind, requiring 24hr nursing care from 3 nurses and exhausted all her resources.
My personal decision was to bite the bullet, pay the IHT and use her own money to make her as comfortable as possible in her final years. I don't think I could have faced myself if we'd got to the point where the remaining money ran out and we were forced to look at cheap alternatives or even turn to the State.
In this case, where the estate is apparently below the IHT threshold anyway, what's the rush? Better safe than sorry IMO. If, god forbid, she needs care in the future and she has significant assets, then she will be expected to pay for the care. However, isn't this covered by the state if her assets are below a certain threshold?
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